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Day 28: Write a letter to someone. It can be a coming out letter or a letter regarding how you hate their homophobia or whatnot. You don’t have to send it.
July 30, 2010, 2:14 am
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Dear Manager Who Believes in Sasquatch:

I get that you think “gay” is a funny word to use when you want to jokingly insult your friends. I get that you think our gay store manager would be down with that. I’m telling you, as a queer myself and as a gay supporter, I find it offensive. A) Why would you even say something like that in a work environment when you’re surrounded by a bunch of people you only know superficially? What if some of us aren’t heterosexual and you don’t know it? SUCH IS THE CASE. B) What right do you have to make a person’s sexual orientation the punchline of your stupid jokes? I get the impression that if you heard some of us standing around taking swings at your Christianity, you’d be offended. You’d take that personally. It’s a part of who you are, part of your identity as a human being. SO IS WHO YOU LOVE.

I’m not campaigning to change your personal opinion. That would take more time than I have, and probably, for you, only God can do that. If you gain a bigger perception of what God means. Right now what I’m interested in is how you’re treating the queers around you, directly and indirectly. The people around you. I feel like, as a manager, it’s partly your responsibility to ensure that we have a workplace where every employee feels welcome to work. That’s currently not happening.

Working graciously with you but not afraid to stand up to you,

The Girl on Make Line.

*This is IRL. I mean. Tonight I told him his use of “gay” offends me. Next time (because there will be a next time), I’m calling him the fuck out.

You can read the full challenge here on Fuck Yeah LGBT. :)


Day 25: The LGBT slur you hate most or if you’ve taken back a slur and used it as a definition, ie queer or fag

Well, I use “queer” in a positive way when speaking inclusively of the entire non-heterosexual community. LGBT is a nice start, but what about pan-, demi-, and asexuals? What about genderqueer people who can’t identify with any of those labels? What about all the circumstances I can’t even think of at the moment? There’s such a huge variety of people represented in this catch-all label, I don’t think initials completely work unless you’re prepared to write out the entire alphabet every time you bring the subject up.

“Fag” and “homo” offend me to no end, though. I don’t usually launch into tirades about it though..I prefer to reject peoples’ attempts at slurs outright. Anytime someone uses any of these words in a derogatory way when conversing with me [e.g. “Ummm, okay, Adam Lambert is a FAG. I am NOT a fag. Therefore, we are not going to listen to Adam Lambert” <there’s logic for you!] I gush like they’ve just dished out the biggest compliment [e.g. “I knoooow, isn’t he fabulous? He’s got better eye makeup than any girl I’ve ever seen!”] and watch them dissolve into confusion. Kinda fun, actually.

Oh, and with regards to asexuality, I wouldn’t go so far as to call it a slur, but when people call you “broken,” it makes you want to punch them in the face.

You can read the full challenge here on Fuck Yeah LGBT. :)

ALERT: Fundie on the loose!
April 11, 2010, 8:17 pm
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Soooo a guy I know (already a very “manly” kind of guy–if he has more masculinity to share with the world, I honestly don’t know where he’s going to keep it all) posted this on Facebook: “I’m releasing the lion that the world told me to keep caged… I refuse to calculate and avoid risks, I denounce the life of security and safety, I will no longer apologize for my masculinity… For my very nature. I seek the wild and unknown. Like the lion groans for freedom every night, so to does a man’s heart!”

Personally I’m not big on traditional gender roles, but I AM big on people being themselves. If an individual feels more “masculine” or “feminine” (according to society’s definitions) then bully for them. This, though, isn’t just a person accepting himself and his gender identity; it hits me as an open declaration of aggression and domination of his biological sex over mine.

So then I posted (a bit passive-aggressively, I’ll admit) that I would no longer apologize for my androgyny. He commented back:

“…And you shouldn’t have to apologize for whatever disease or fungus or whatever you say you have, Talia. Just get it taken care of and save us the details! :p”

Okay, yeah, thanks.