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Day 25: The LGBT slur you hate most or if you’ve taken back a slur and used it as a definition, ie queer or fag

Well, I use “queer” in a positive way when speaking inclusively of the entire non-heterosexual community. LGBT is a nice start, but what about pan-, demi-, and asexuals? What about genderqueer people who can’t identify with any of those labels? What about all the circumstances I can’t even think of at the moment? There’s such a huge variety of people represented in this catch-all label, I don’t think initials completely work unless you’re prepared to write out the entire alphabet every time you bring the subject up.

“Fag” and “homo” offend me to no end, though. I don’t usually launch into tirades about it though..I prefer to reject peoples’ attempts at slurs outright. Anytime someone uses any of these words in a derogatory way when conversing with me [e.g. “Ummm, okay, Adam Lambert is a FAG. I am NOT a fag. Therefore, we are not going to listen to Adam Lambert” <there’s logic for you!] I gush like they’ve just dished out the biggest compliment [e.g. “I knoooow, isn’t he fabulous? He’s got better eye makeup than any girl I’ve ever seen!”] and watch them dissolve into confusion. Kinda fun, actually.

Oh, and with regards to asexuality, I wouldn’t go so far as to call it a slur, but when people call you “broken,” it makes you want to punch them in the face.

You can read the full challenge here on Fuck Yeah LGBT. :)


Day 4: The first person you came out to and that story
June 26, 2010, 11:08 pm
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Like I said yesterday, the first time I used the word “asexual” in reference to myself was in conversation with a friend on a weekend vacation, although I don’t really consider that a coming-out experience, since it was brand new for myself. So, moving on:

I came out to a group of internet friends I’m really close with..we’ve known each other for sevenish years and tell each other everything. One girl said, “WHYYY? How can you know you’re asexual if you haven’t even tried it? If you try it you might like it!” and so on and so forth. Another friend was like, “So what! So she’s not horny like you! She’s a rational person!” Made me laugh. To this day my asexuality’s a huge source of humor to our group. :)

If you mean actual, in-person experiences: More recently I came out to some coworkers because they’re all sex-crazed and they kept trying to get me to join in their fun. I’m quite tolerant, but when someone tries to include me in these goings-on, I have to nip that shit in the bud. One kid started telling people I must be freaky [I asked him to clarify what he meant, haha] so I just told him. He immediately said, “SO YOU REPRODUCE ASEXUALLY.” < Probably THE single most common reaction. I explained the difference between human and botanical asexuality and the difference between sexual orientation/attraction and reproduction, and then the other guy butted in with, “NO NO NO, over there you just said that guy* was pretty!” So then I had to explain that I think a lot of people are aesthetically beautiful, but that doesn’t mean I want to bang them. Haha, I asked if he always experienced physical and sexual attraction in conjuction, and you could literally see the little lightbulb go on.

*Adam Lambert of course

You can read the full challenge here on Fuck Yeah LGBT. :)